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Comment #3371

2013-09-18T01:14:53Z

Introverts are very often misunderstood. People are very often surprised when I tell them that I am an intravert and so they expect me to ALWAYS be the life of the party when I would rather be alone. Extraverts find it hard to understand how intraverts can be "happy" like this but we really are and we do not want to change. Extraverts often think that we are rude,cold,anti-social,or stuck up, and they end up taking our lack of wanting to hang out with them personally. I always explain this aspect of myself to others so that they don't read me wrong. It seems to help in that when an intravert does not return the extraverts phone calls in a timely manner, or when they let the call go to the answering machine, it wont be taken so personally. The thing is that we do not want others to take our behavoiur personally. Just accept us for who we are. Thanks for your article.

Comment #3370

2012-03-31T13:22:46Z

Glad you liked it, Sarah. I'm totally with you on phone calls!

Comment #3369

2012-03-31T03:38:16Z

Thank you for posting the highlights. Wonderful reminders. I LOVE the way she describes phone calls: "an interruption that drains energy and requires losing internal focus, which you have to gain again; it requires expending energy for 'on-the-feet thinking.'" That's it! A phone call can (and often does) upset/throw off my entire day, and I've never before been able to pinpoint why.

Comment #3368

2012-03-18T12:59:54Z

Agreed. I found her descriptions fuzzier than most. Maybe we can ditch labels altogether and simply acknowledge that people are different, that we need to take those differences into account, and that "different" is not a synonym for "flawed"?

Still, I do find some of her strategies helpful. For example, I've long known that what looks like bad behavior in a child is often better prevented by sleep than followed by punishment. But it never occurred to me that sometimes all a grumpy child needs to be restored to his happy, agreeable self is a break from the stimulation of interaction.

Comment #3367

2012-03-18T12:46:15Z

According to her definitions I am a clear IntrovertExtrovert. Hopefully these tips will help me when I'm talking to myself. ;)